Middle Child Syndrome?

so….posting every Tuesday? fail. LOL!

I’ve been thinking lately about the concept of the “middle child” and how they always feel left out.  But I think God’s showing me little by little about the first child and how they get a little less patience/love sometimes.  I have a almost 5 year old and a 2 year old and one on the way and I’ve been noticing lately how I sometimes treat them differently.  I believe the Lord is bringing this up in my life so I’ll deal with it before it gets out of control.  I actually think I noticed it in another family first and how it looks to me that sometimes with the oldest child we treat somewhat harsher because we think they should know better.  And yes, maybe they should, but love needs to be the guidance, not frustration, anger or yelling.  Yes, I am a firm believer in stating the truth and talking about things in the open and not letting things go without saying something, but the Lord’s showing me in my own life that I need to treat all my kids with the same patience and love and respect as the other.  For example:  If my oldest is jumping on the couch and I don’t want him to and then my youngest goes and does it and he doesn’t understand all the ‘English  words’ yet, then I have to get up and physically pull him down and say no baby, but I don’t feel like it because I’m tired and so I don’t say anything or say to my oldest, he’s just a baby, he doesn’t understand…then that’s not fair!  I know it’s a silly example, but to be honest, I’ve found myself in that situation before, there’s many more examples, but I can’t think of any.  But, if God treats everyone equally…..hmmm…

I think it’s a big ‘tone of voice’ thing too, we talk smooth, nice baby talk with an extra dash of nice to our young ones and then have a normal adult tone with out kids and get upset way easier.

Don’t know about you, but I want to stop this immediately!  Lord, help me to be patient and kind with each of my children, husband and even my dog!!!  You’ve created all of them and I just want to be so full of love that I can’t help but have it fully flowing out of me!!!  Love you God!!! :D  Amen!

aaah. 4 year olds:)

Soooo…..I was just doing the dishes and I gave my 2 sons a hot dog each.  Well, I heard this ding, ding, ding…..ding…ding…so I turned around and saw my 4 year old banging his plate with his fork marching towards me. 

Very politely I said, “Is there a reason you’re banging your plate like that?”

To which he replied, “I was trying to get more hot dogs.”

:S       haha I had to laugh and say, “well my dear, next time you can ask me!”

Now, what would I do if my husband asked me that seriously?  Or if he was a little bit older and was just being impatient and not innocently saying that?  Well, I would love to say I’d answer the same way, in a patient, loving tone, but honestly, on a tired, pregnant day, I probably wouldn’t.  But, I’m asking God to grow my character and make me so I would!

It’s easy to get upset sometimes in this crazy, busy life on this crazy, busy planet.  I have to remind myself (most of the time failing, but I’m improving with the grace of God) to stop, pause and think.  Being a mom of 2 very busy boys,(one in the terrible two’s mind you!), starting to homeschool, part time worker, husband involved in a few activities through the week, being 4 months pregnant, and of course, other life throw-ins, let’s just say I can get upset sooo easily! 

But … I thank the Lord for small successes!  Baby steps, you have to congratulate yourself in baby steps. 

So, to my moodiness, quick-sometimes not so nice reactions, say goodbye!  Sometimes slowly…..but you’re going! 

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.” 

James 1:19-21

Gotta keep at this!

I am not a good blogger, but I do like doing it, I’m going to try to do this every Tuesday.  I can handle one post a week, can’t I? 

So, I’m having a crazy week!  First Owen gets really sick last Wednesday, high fever, going to the bathroom a lot, then he breaks out in a fever rash, and now he’s back to normal, well, we’re waiting for his rash to get better.  Then my hubby Ben has crazy tooth pain and has to get a root canal today and now he’s on his way home from work in a lot of pain because they didn’t give him any prescription….waiting for them to phone one in shortly…:) And today, my oldest Cody has a fever!  And we’re out of advil, thank God Ben’s coming home so we can have the car to go get some.  I hate it when my kids get sick, I feel so bad!

So, I checked out Hip Homeschool Hop today!  It seems very interesting…I’m excited because someone posted this site that I am very excited about!  Check it out, it’s worship music with only scripture in it for you to memorize!  I want it for my kids, but as I started listening to it I realized how much I like it!  So I can’t wait to order it, here’s the website:

www.seedfamilyworship.net

So, I’ll find more interesting things and post, I’m going to try and jazz up my site more and more, it’s pretty bland…..

ttyl!  God bless and have a great day!!!!!!! :D

P.S. Please pray for me and my family as we have a lot going on and can’t miss much work at all, gotta pay the bills!!!!!!!

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!”

Amen!

Beautiful Day Out!!!!!!!

I’ve got one little tired boy today asleep b/c he went to bed too late and missed his nap!  Oh well, a nice break for me!  It’s soooo nice out, I love this weather!  Actually if it got a little cooler I’d love it more, yes, I’m an oddball.  Actually, for the first time in my life I find myself wanting winter….I think mainly because I’ve been missing hanging out with my family lately.  The days are so busy and I really enjoy my hubby.  Not having and close friends to call upon yet, and I’m not complaining, I really believe it’s where the Lord has placed me at this time in my life, but I really want to hang with my Benny.  He’s so much fun and we’re so compatible.  Even though I annoy him with my childlike actions…lol  And some people wonder where my kids get it….hee hee hee! 

Moving to SJ sometime in sept/oct.  I’m pretty excited, but really praying and hoping to sell my house…that would be so nice.  But, if God is in control, then He has it all planned out and I have to trust that.

Yesterday’s sermon at church was sooooo good, we had a pastor come in from Georgia and man!  So funny, so entertaining, challenging and bold truth with love.  Just what I needed and wanted to hear.  God bless that man, but most of all, thank you God for obedient servants that do Your will.   He was so funny in some parts, it was awesome.

Man, I hope I sell my house soon….I’ve only had one person view it, but I’m not advertising that well because I want to get all the small jobs done first, then I might just get an agent to sell it because I’m moving and don’t want to do all the work…lol…time will tell, well, I hope to be keeping up with writing on this and try to stay off facebook, ttyl!  Keep talking to Him, He’ll never forsake you or leave you!!!!!!! :D